性別跨界~三面夏娃Janet的部落格

跨性別的人是上帝的選民?應該不是吧!上帝所遺忘的人,再加上,上帝品管失誤的產品。這樣形容跨性人比較貼切吧!跨性別的人,一輩子可以過著二個獨立個體的生活,甚至三個,或是更多.........

星期一, 七月 06, 2009

禁止跨女性別使用女廁被判歧視

美國緬因州人權委員會週一判決Orono學校禁止跨性別兒童使用女性廁所為歧視。

http://www.bangordailynews.com/detail/109732.html


7/1/09 | 264 comments
State rules in favor of young transgender

By Abigail Curtis
BDN Staff

AUGUSTA, Maine — The Maine Human Rights Commission ruled Monday that the Orono School Department discriminated against a transgender child by denying her access to the girls bathroom.

While the school department’s lawyer warned that schools around the state may not be ready to manage the practical fallout from the decision, civil liberties advocates hailed the ruling as an advancement of human rights.

“This ruling is a huge step forward for a vulnerable population that is entitled to the full protection of the law,” said Zachary Heiden, legal director of the Maine Civil Liberties Union. “There will always be voices who claim we’re not ready, we’re not there yet, the time to end discrimination is next year, or next session. But victims of discrimination should not have to wait.”

The attorney for the child and her parents said his clients are very happy with the outcome of their complaint.

“At the very heart of it is the issue of basic human dignity and fundamental civil liberties,” said Eric Mehnert. “It was a good decision.”

But Melissa Hewey, attorney for the Orono School Department, said the ruling was “a huge leap.”

“I’m not sure that it takes into account practicalities that face educators around the state,” she said. “You can understand [the ruling] intellectually. You can agree with it intellectually. But practice is sometimes different — and I think that’s what may have escaped some people in this case.”

The discrimination in question first occurred in October 2007 when the child was in the fifth grade at Asa Adams School. Until then, she was allowed to use the girls’ bathroom, although she was biologically male. But that fall, the transgender child was followed into the girls room by a male student who had “previously started to harass her by stalking her and calling her ‘faggot,’” according to the Maine Human Rights Commission investigator’s report.

After the second such episode, the boy was suspended and removed from the transgender child’s class. At that point, school officials told the transgender child that she had to use a single-stall faculty bathroom at the other end of the school, and that was when her parents decided to take the matter to the Maine Human Rights Commission.

Paul Melanson, grandfather of the boy accused of harassing the transgender student, also filed a complaint with the Maine Human Rights Commission, saying that not allowing his grandson to use the girls bathroom or the faculty bathroom as the other child did was a violation of his grandson’s right to public accommodation under the Maine Human Rights Act. Melanson had given his grandson permission to use the girls bathroom as long as the transgender student was doing so, according to the report.

Enough is enough, an irate Melanson said Monday of the commission’s ruling.

“It ticks me right off that you’re letting a kid run the whole system,” he said.

Melanson is now trying to inspire Maine moms to protest the decision, which he thinks is wrong — and unfair to both boys and girls.

“Little boys do not belong in the little girls room, and vice versa,” he said. “This isn’t just about my kid. A lot of children have come up to me and said that this isn’t right.”

On Monday, the commission found that Asa Adams School did not unlawfully discriminate against Melanson’s grandson “because of his sexual orientation,” which is a heterosexual male.

“Minor Student 2 was disciplined because his biological sex is male and his gender identity is male and he used the girls’ bathroom,” the investigator’s report said.

Hewey said the commission made the right decision in this case.

“You can hope that most people won’t use their children as pawns to make political statements,” she said.

Patricia Ryan, executive director of the Maine Human Rights Commission, said this decision is among the first to involve schools, sexual orientation provision, gender identity and the issues of bathroom use. She said schools in Maine likely will want to take a look at it.

It was the commission’s second ruling in two months on transgender people and public restroom use. On May 18, the commission found that a transgender woman was discriminated against at a Denny’s restaurant in Auburn when management would not let her use the ladies room until she had sex reassignment surgery.

“Every time you get new jurisdiction, the first decisions that are made are always new,” Ryan said. “They’re always in areas in which the courts have not had the opportunities to develop case law.”

According to Mehnert, his clients wanted to bring the case in part because the parents’ previously “wonderful” relationship with school officials over their child’s public accommodation had broken down.

“The message that was sent from the superintendent said that it is OK to segregate this child, it is OK to ostracize this child,” Mehnert said. “I think [the parents’] biggest challenge is their fear — it’s a very real fear — that the Orono school system has told them that they don’t think they can protect the child.”

Because the child started identifying as a girl at a very young age, the parents had worked with school officials to have a plan for “reasonable accommodation,” Mehnert said. But when the fifth-grade incidents happened, the school moved to resolve the situation with “no interactive conversation,” he said.

Hewey said school officials had the child’s interests in mind.

“Not only did they provide accommodation, a separate bathroom, that was the bathroom that the student’s health care practitioner recommended,” she said.

Mehnert said his clients had hoped to look at the fifth-grade incidents as an opportunity for education rather than a problem.

“They felt that the school could be a leader in what everyone sees as a very complex issue, and they were rebuffed,” he said.

The Maine Human Rights Commission is the state agency charged with the responsibility of enforcing Maine’s anti-discrimination laws. It attempts to resolve complaints of discrimination to the mutual satisfaction of those who are involved, according to its Web site.

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星期四, 七月 02, 2009

介紹一部不錯的日劇

有在偷瞄我部落格的小朋友們請注意:
七月七日緯來日本台
即將上演由富士通電視公司製作的影集"Last Friends"
全劇共11集

這是日本人很用心拍的一部LGBT影集
這是一齣不錯的性別議題影集
打破大家一直以來對性少數的刻板印象
讓大家認識一下性少數

大家不要以為性少數跟自己沒關係
搞不好你的家人就是這些性少數之一

大家試著看完全劇
試著想想你自己原先對性少數有多少錯誤的認知

試著了解性別認同障礙是怎麼回事

如果是你自己
你會怎麼辦

星期六, 二月 14, 2009

國內有40萬人想變性

http://www.libertytimes.com.tw/2009/new/feb/14/today-life21.htm
2009-2-14
國內有40萬人想變性
精神健康基金會調查發現,國內有一百六十萬人對自己的性別不滿意,約四十萬人口有希望變成異性的想法,其中女性想變性比率佔全部女性受訪總數的三點七%,約為男性一點四%的二點六倍。對自己性別不滿意的人,精神健康指數得分只有六十七點九分,遠低於對自己性別滿意者的八十三點三分。

精神健康基金會董事長、台大精神科主任胡海國表示,從精神科門診,能深刻感受性別障礙認同,從小諸如衣著打扮等生活事件上,承受很大的困擾與壓力,社會應接納、關懷他們,讓他們擁有健康人生。(記者魏怡嘉)

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第一次看到比率這麼高的報告

星期二, 二月 10, 2009

2008聖誕崇拜



今年唱應許的旅程
跟松年、愛樂、青少契、主日學小朋友
幾乎半個教會動員合演這一齣聖誕劇

星期五, 十月 17, 2008

與流言密談第四集

錄影20080829南海路植物園
本來節目名稱都說流言密語
後來變成與流言密談
哈哈
旭寬變流言
淑雯與流言密談

來賓 高旭寬
本集主題 不男不女也是一種美

背景
我們很自然的,依生理結構,把人分成男跟女。
然而,有些不男不女,或無法認同自己性別的人,
卻因此感到迷失痛苦,一再被社會偏見打擊。
六年前,高旭寬做了變性手術,從女人變成男人,
他成為跨性別運動的核心人物。
高旭寬說,人能做自己想做的樣子,才能活得有尊嚴…
本集節目中,
主持人胡淑雯和來賓高旭寬,
深入討論跨性別者的內在和社會處境。

精采訪談節錄
◎主持人胡淑雯:「你可以替觀眾解釋一下,跨性別是什麼意思?」
◎來賓高旭寬:「我們在生活當中,其實可以看到很多這樣的主體,比如說:娘娘腔、男人婆、不男不女,那台語就說:半南洋仔、女人身,或是一般人家又說的人妖。很陽剛的女性、很陰柔的男性、變性人、雙性人(陰陽人)…這些。就是在生理性別或心理性別,或者你的性別角色、性別的表現跨越了傳統以男女當為界線的表現,我們都說這樣子的表現叫做跨性別。」

◎主持人胡淑雯:「你自己本身在TG蝶園做很多服務的工作,你能不能談談跨性人選擇變性的動機?」
◎來賓高旭寬:「為什麼有人會想去變性?很多人都認為說,你是一個有性別認同障礙的人,才會想去變性。可是我覺得應該反過來想,為什麼人會選擇花這麼大的力氣、那麼大的成本、冒那麼大的風險去做這個變性手術?他一定要去解決他莫大的痛苦。那個莫大的痛苦來自於哪裡?來自於他的不男不女,不見容於這個社會。」

◎主持人胡淑雯:「能不能請你談一、兩個例子,就是跨性人在生活上有什麼困擾?」
◎來賓高旭寬:「經常碰到的是打扮上面不符合社會的期待。那最大一部分的是情感問題。要怎麼告白?比方說,淑雯,如果你喜歡的對象是女生,但是你是一個有屌的女生,那該怎麼辦?就是說,所有的狀況都必須要出櫃。為什麼會出現這個狀況?因為所有人的預期,都是以一個異性戀的思考模式在想。當我看到你的樣子的時候,我就自然而然認為你百分之百、從頭到尾、從裡到外,都是一個女生。原本會有一個預期,所以之後會覺得好像…受騙上當。」

◎主持人胡淑雯:「其實我覺得,作為一個跨性別者,或是一個變性人,要讓自己站在台前被指認出來,其實需要的不是勇氣,我覺得需要的是對於你自己的這個族群還蠻深的愛?」
◎來賓高旭寬:「應該說,我覺得有許多的朋友幫助我建立起自信和自尊,那也許我可以幫助其他人,也做到這點。倒不是說一定要站在台前,而是說我在任何時候,我都可以抬頭挺胸。」

待續…

側訪群像
◎Janet:高旭寬好友,是由男變女的變性人,本節目將專訪她跨性別的心路歷程。聊到來賓高旭寬,Janet說:「坦白講,我們跨性別主體本身,其實很多人對於人生都是非常藍色的,那幾乎可以說,對未來是沒有抱任何希望。但是我覺得跟高旭寬接觸之後,他讓我知道,我的人生還有一大半還沒去開創,我覺得,認識他最好的一點就是,他讓我看到,我還有未來。」

◎小祐:「TG蝶園」成員,高旭寬好友,是由男變女的變性人。本節目將專訪她。從變性手術、服藥、在公共場所遇到的限制、換身分證、逛街買衣服…等日常生活面向,作為一個跨性人的經歷。

主持人後記
每一年的同志大遊行,
都可以見到許多又男又女、似女非男、
不女不男、似男非女的自由人。
然而這些自由人,
卻被社會中多數不自由的人圍困…
這世上哪有百分百的真男人?
哪有完整無缺的標準女人?
在刻板的性別秩序底下,
你我都是不合格的。

跨性別支持團體
跨性別諮詢皓日專線
電話:(02)2394-9008
接線時間:每週三 晚間7-10點。

星期三, 八月 27, 2008

進入不了另一框架只好做運動

討論版上有位妹妹接近炫耀自己身材的波文
引起不小的回應
看在老ts的內心覺得是人性使然
過一段時日雙方冷靜後各自會有適當的調整

以下是我一直以來在思考的剛好跟這個有關

我們一直在做運動想打破固有性別框架
當然包括所有內在氣息與外在顯現的一切
這些都是我們做運動的目標

可是我們卻也在自己身上複製原有相對的框架

只是有人由框架女跑到框架男
有人相反地卻想從框架男跑到框架女

或者應該說像我這種對跑進另一個框架已經絕望的人
才會用性別運動標舉打破框架來自我安慰

哈這是一篇自慰文

獻給一群運動場上的朋友互相安慰

星期三, 八月 13, 2008

該如何面對小孩

這是一個跨性別版的討論文章

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以下是我與一位CD朋友的對話:
(其中敏感部分以 xxx 取代)

xxxxxx (2008/8/11 上午 01:32:26): 你小孩多大
R (2008/8/11 上午 01:32:50): X 年級
xxxxxx (2008/8/11 上午 01:33:44): 很好溝通了..
R (2008/8/11 上午 01:34:01): 妳是擔心小孩知道吧?
xxxxxx (2008/8/11 上午 01:34:24): 我們家那個..看過了..
xxxxxx (2008/8/11 上午 01:34:30): 看到照片..
xxxxxx (2008/8/11 上午 01:34:52): 唉..那個是爸爸..
xxxxxx (2008/8/11 上午 01:34:57): 來玩我電腦..
R (2008/8/11 上午 01:35:28): 唉!尷尬
xxxxxx (2008/8/11 上午 01:35:34): 我直直否認
xxxxxx (2008/8/11 上午 01:35:51): 爸爸..你為什麼要裝成女生
R (2008/8/11 上午 01:36:05): 她/他 多大
xxxxxx (2008/8/11 上午 01:36:11): xxx
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R (2008/8/11 上午 01:37:53): 老實說,我曾經與 XXX 聊過
R (2008/8/11 上午 01:38:55): 大部分的心理諮商,是為家中有性別認同障礙小孩的父母
R (2008/8/11 上午 01:39:27): 卻沒有為家中有性別認同障礙父母的小孩
xxxxxx (2008/8/11 上午 01:39:38): 哈..
R (2008/8/11 上午 01:39:55): 可是,如果這個族群的人數比率是一定的
R (2008/8/11 上午 01:40:53): 表示就是有這麼多的長大後變成父母的人,不知道如何面對她/他的小孩
xxxxxx (2008/8/11 上午 01:41:15): 就算有..都是負面的..正當事業或是獨當面的..都躲起來..
R (2008/8/11 上午 01:41:35): 崔然大部分選擇不讓小孩知道
R (2008/8/11 上午 01:41:55): 但是萬一小孩不小心發現了,怎麼辦?
R (2008/8/11 上午 01:42:28): 這還是不公平的
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在我們的成長過程中,總是有一關接著一關的問題等著我們面對,但是這些問題,卻都往往得不到任何人告訴答案或解決方法。


像上面這個問題,我最近就在兩個不同的場合聽到,但大家最後都選擇逃避,真的是這樣嗎?是不是可能有另一種選擇?但是結果會如何?有沒有人有經驗,可以說說看嗎?我覺得我對小孩的教育夠開明,我可以讓小孩知道爸爸是這樣的人嗎?我不想以後讓我小孩痛苦的發現真相啊!


為了酬謝各位回答,歐巴桑貼了新照,有回答問題才可以看喔!如果看了想吐,只好說聲:歹謝啦!


R

=================回應1==============
這也是我心中的痛,我的孩子不知道我的CD,終紙包不住火,因為一家人生活在一起,即使 Outlet藏得怎麼好,還是會不小心露出馬腳!
當初就是不小心被我老婆發現,差點離婚,後來看在孩子面上没離,但也要求去看心理醫生”治療”(當然是無效,有位心理醫生甚至說這又不是病),並且只准半夜在書房CD,但隨著孩子大了,我很怕被孩子看到,傷害到他們,我倒不認為我是變態,只是一位愛穿美美女性衣服的男人,這個嗜好不被社會接受而已。所以我渴望有姐妹,跟我分享如何讓兒女知道但又不要讓他們受到傷害的經驗!謝謝

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原文吃光光

關於父母或小孩的諮商或適應

有一個櫃父母團體有在做這方面的事,不過他們是les佔多數,之前他們有邀我寫稿談同志小孩的教養問題。
因為這些父母是les跟gay為主,因此他們著重的是教養問題偏重在兩個爸爸,兩個媽媽的孩子教養。

教導孩子如何建立自信
交換彼此教養方法
如何跟學校老師同學互動等等

也有想到跨性別小孩的問題上
不過都還在起步摸索階段

=======分隔線=========
以下是我自己的經驗

我是ts
而且是已出櫃的ts

上週在北部參加一個聚會
會中有一位人士(原諒我不明示哪個聚會哪個人)
提到這個問題

我想今天的跨性別團體組成份子年齡層多數約20~35
這樣的團體對照今天社會不婚族越來越多的情形
跨性別小孩教養問題應該不會被重視
因為對他們而言不是最需要解決的問題

反倒是老人這一族的跨性別結婚比例偏高
小孩教養是不能忽視的重要課題

小孩跟父母那一方的親或疏
較親的一方對跨性別的態度往往決定孩子對自己上一代
出現跨性別這件事的接受度
佔有極大的關鍵因素

有一位丹麥導演紀錄自己父親的cd經歷
叫 "父親的衣櫃"
是一部可看的紀錄片
雖然很沉悶
但是對我們自身的切身問題
再沉悶都要好好看

我自己孩子從小就在兩個媽媽愛護下成長
雖然一個媽媽常常會變成爸爸

孩子在唸國中時相對的已經比同班同學
對於弱勢的同學的更為關心嶄露無遺
當時孩子跟我們分享
她說自己家裏有一個很難被社會接受的媽媽
我們應該對被同學排斥的同學加以關心
她說她知道被排斥的痛苦

我那時聽了很感動
只覺得我這輩子欠她們(妻子兒女)的
不知要如何還

我想最最關鍵是跨性別主體跟配偶關係
以及付出對小孩的關心
這兩個因素決定
孩子對人生的態度以及自信

我想跨性別孩子教養的問題慢慢會受到重視
因為
跨性別主體最直接的
適應出櫃問題
緊接著父母家人問題
最後才會輪到
最弱勢的小孩問題

這些問題的受關心程度一定循此軌跡演進
也唯有上一個問題解決了
才會想到下一個問題